Domestic Violence, Reactive Abuse (03 29 2024)

Somebody wants to know my thoughts on domestic violence. Well, a lot like other topics I'm asked to talk about, it's not a novel concept, it's kind of common sense, but domestic violence is bad. If you get physical you're going to be going to jail.

Obviously, many of us get into situations where we're being ranted at, where we're being raved at, where people are telling us we're the bane of their existence, we're being treated unkindly, and cruelly. Sometimes we'll want to react emotionally - reactive abuse. But punching the wall for example. But do you know what that leads to? It leads to you getting more medicated, it leads to you going to the psychiatric hospital, or possibly even jail.

So the best thing is to control your emotions. If you're in a situation where you're getting yelled at, maybe by a woman, the best thing to do, especially if you're a nonviolent passive kind of person - don't let your emotions bubble up and don't react in a way you'll regret - by punching the drywall for example and putting a hole in the wall then getting medicated or going to the psychiatric hospital. 

What you need to do in that situation - if you see it's becoming a powder keg, if you see it's going south really quickly - GET OUT OF THE HOUSE. Take a drive to the mall and walk around, or walk around the neighborhood, and come back in an hour or so. Their emotions might be calmer, your emotions might be calmer, and everybody will be harmonious again. The tsunami of emotions will pass.

So if you react and punch a hole in the wall - you're going to get medicated. If you react and do something impulsive - you're going to either go to the psychiatric hospital, jail, or God knows where. SO DON'T REACT. Be Zen, be tranquil, be peaceful. Don't react to high emotion, high energy, getting ranted at and told you're the bane of their existence.